My husband and I have a son who is 27.
My nephew is 23.
The difference between my son and nephew’s eating habits is astonishing, and they’re nearly the same age.
Son: I’m a little hungry, but I can wait an hour for dinner.
Nephew: I’m a little hungry, FEED ME NOW BEFORE I STARVE TO DEATH IN THE NEXT 30 SECONDS!
Kind of funny, but I do think it lends a lot to what we’re taught as children about food and our relationship with it.
Like any relationship, it can be healthy or UNhealthy.
Growing up in a 1-horse-town and out in the country even from the town, we didn’t have many fast food options growing up. No restaurants that weren’t at least a 30 minute drive away.
We went to the grocery store once a week, and the the mall (that was an hour away) once a month. We usually had a “sit down” meal at the mall and that was a big deal back then 😀
Those sit down meals were also nothing like today. Portions were smaller, foods were “cleaner”, restaurants did not tolerate kids running around, screaming and generally annoying the entire room, there were no tablets or smart phones: you enjoyed the food and your dining companions.
We ate scheduled meals, and we sat together at the table.
Desserts were once a week, on Sunday.
Snacks were rare and usually a fruit (we had a grapefruit orchard) or small pastry if my Great Grandmother had baked, or a Mexican pandulce – neither of which were sweet by todays pastry standards.
Another thing that has changed: you were in the kitchen at an early age when I was a kid, and you learned, at the least, the basics of cooking. Maybe nothing culinary grade, but you could fend for yourself if needed. This applied to boys and girls.
I am amazed at how many women and men in some groups/boards, that are in their 30s, that can’t even boil water. They depend solely on fast food and take out to live. Or, if they’re lucky, their mom or dad cooks for them. You get the picture.
IMO one of the best things we can do for ourselves is to learn to cook healthy, no matter what healthy means to you, dishes , so we can depend on ourselves instead of some faceless chef, to keep ourselves fed and (hopefully) healthy.
I read a quote that sticks with me: “Being hungry is not an emergency”.
I have been trying to improve my relationship with food for many years and, I think, I’ve accomplished a lot in that aspect.
If nothing else, my son has adopted my newer food thoughts about hunger and when/what/how much to eat. Yes, he still occasionally has ramen at 3am (smells awful and will wake you up /annoyed) but a good 80% of the time he’s switched to a healthier way to look at food as both fuel and for enjoyment.
This is an interesting article about how to improve your relationship with food. If you can adopt just 1 or 2 of these, it may help you as well:)
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8258/11-steps-to-rebuild-your-relationship-with-food.html